Do you quickly bounce-back from a serious challenge? That is resilience. Everyone has some degree of resilience. We are born with it. But resilience is also learned and the experience and lessons we learn during our lifetime can add or take away from our capacity for resiliency. Unfortunately, we seldom understand our level and skills at applying resiliency until we are tested… when we face a huge challenge, adversity and perhaps fear.
Resilience is good for the mind and body. Yet, few people work on developing it.
So, you think you are resilient. Good. Now, think back to the greatest single adversity that you have experienced in your life and take the quiz below. Our version is shortened and was adapted from the work of Al Siebert, PhD, author of The Resiliency Advantage and The Survivor Personality. If you have not read these books, you need to. Great stuff.
Consider sharing the quiz with your friends to support their effort to build resilience – whether for adventure, adversity or just a better, more resilient life.
Score yourself 1 low and 5 high.
- I put up with serious levels of uncertainty very well.
- I quickly can mentally recover from defeats and setbacks.
- In a crisis situation, I can quickly calm myself down.
- I don’t judge other people.
- I am quick to learn my lesson from previous experiences.
Add up your score. Here is a guide.
Over 20 Resilient!
15-20 Not bad at all. You can get better, though.
10-15 adequate but improvement would help
10-15 struggling – lets improve
10 or under … some work to do.
Now, take the test again but this time imagine that you have just been diagnosed with a serious and surprising cancer. The process will influence your work, your family and your free time for many months. How do you think you will do? Go ahead, be honest and take the quiz again.
Likely, your scores lowered some. You’re not alone. When we are surprised or shocked by a sudden adversity, resiliency is put to a greater test. Continual development in understanding and building resiliency is useful. It is a learned skill – but only if we consciously make the effort to build it. It prepares you for life’s adventures, allows you to more quickly bounce back and deal with a challenge – no matter what that challenge is. Climb a mountain, run a race, face a break-up, deal with a health issue – the list goes on. A key goal: To take your reaction to a challenge and turn it on its head into a constructive response – even an opportunity.
Seibert’s book gets into this topic in great detail and the testing is more comprehensive. Everyone can benefit from an effort to build resilience. It is like a wonderful savings account. You can bank on it when the going gets tough.
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